The parents on the show grilled bachelorettes with questions like “Can you do housework?(In China, divorced women are often considered damaged goods.) Some critics called the show a revival of outdated arranged marriages (link in Chinese).But if the man is especially dreamy, women can also choose to activate a "blast light" that shows their strong interest in him.Once the bachelor has finished being introduced, if there are more than two lights on, he must walk up to the podiums and turn lights off for the women he isn't interested in until only two are left. After that, he can choose to date one of them or make an offer to date whatever girl he chose at the beginning, even if she turned her light off.The producers generally choose men who are interesting in one way or another, and the often frank and humorous banter between these guests and host Meng Fei is quite amusing.But this Chinese dating show is also popular because it taps into young Chinese people's attitudes about dating and sex.‘If You Are The One’ — in Chinese, ‘Fei Cheng Wu Rao’ — has become an unlikely hit for Australia’s youth-oriented SBS2 channel since the network decided to start broadcasting it with English subtitles in 2013.
” They also brutally rejected a 40-year-old divorcee and single mom.
For a while after its debut, the show made no attempt to hide some of its contestants' mercenary attitudes towards dating.
The show featured young people talking extremely bluntly about what they wanted in a potential mate and what they didn't, and some of them were quite headlines around the world after a 20-year-old female contestant famously rejected a man who asked her if she'd go bike riding with him on a date, to which she replied: "I'd rather cry in a BMW [than laugh on a bicycle]." The "BMW" incident and a number of other high-profile stunts on the show, many of which revolved around the male contestants' wealth or lack thereof eventually led to government intervention.
The 40-year-old divorcee’s story is an example of the tensions between two divided generations.
One is stuck in conservative values (parents wanting virgins and baby makers), and another has become more open-minded (like the 23-year-old guy who wanted to defy his mother and choose the 40-year-old divorcee.) Some viewers have criticized the show for being overly dramatic and suspect it is scripted, which the producer denied in several interviews.